Saving Chaim

The Big Brothers program started with a few loving adults getting together to make a difference in the lives of children from high-risk homes. These kids often didn’t have enough food or clothing until Yad Eliezer got involved, but more importantly, they didn’t have enough warmth, attention, and love. Big Brothers and Big Sisters filled the gap where hungry hearts might have led to criminality or life on the streets.

But Big Brothers cry, too. One Big Brother, a man in his thirties with a young family, visited program director Rafi Kugler one day with tears in his eyes.

“My own child is in third grade,” he told Rafi. “We just got a letter from the principal. He basically told us that Chaim* is a nice kid but he doesn’t understand the material. He said that Chaim seems to have a psychological problem… Can you recommend anyone?”

A $600 psychological evaluation ensured his worried parents that Chaim’s psyche was just fine, but that he might have a didactic problem. A second test, at $300, revealed Chaim’s learning disability. When Chaim’s parents went back to the principal to report the results of the evaluations and to ask for help, the principal reluctantly admitted that, yes, the school could offer help in the form of a private tutor, but it would cost the family at least 700 shekels a month.

Chaim’s parents weren’t impoverished, but they simply didn’t have the money for such a significant additional monthly expenditure. It was a terrible position to be in. After all, what would Chaim’s life become if he could never learn how to read? Educationally and socially, Chaim would fall way behind. Shame and frustration would color his days, and his future could be mediocre at best – and criminal at worst. Without learning how to read, Chaim’s future would end in third grade.

It didn’t take long for Rafi to realize that thousands of parents face these challenges. Intervening in a learning disability is costly, but the dividends for children, families, and society are priceless. It seemed that for some kids, even having a warm and loving Big Brother wasn’t enough. Giving all Israeli children a healthy future meant diagnosing and treating learning disabilities, too. And the Shalhevet Early Learning Initiative was born.

Shalhevet is the only program of its kind in Israel. Instead of structuring private tutoring into tired, grumpy afternoons after a long day of regular school classes, Shalhevet works inside affiliated schools to team elementary school students with tutors during morning hours when kids are at their most alert and receptive.

Shalhevet also maintains on-going contact with principals and other school staff members in order to ensure that all possible learning disabilities are caught early on. Shalhevet’s team of evaluating professionals visit schools regularly to evaluate kids who may be struggling with these issues. Early diagnosis and tutoring stops what otherwise often becomes a slippery slide down into serious educational, social, and emotional problems.  

Most importantly, these services are offered at very little cost to parents, ensuring that every child is given the tools he or she needs to succeed.

Chaim got the help he needed, but thousands like him wait on a roster of schools and children wanting to join the Shalhevet roster. These schools and children qualify for the help Shalhevet can provide, but a limited budget ties Shalhevet’s hands.

You can change that. Donate to the Yad Eliezer Shalhevet Early Learning Initiative. Make a difference for a child today.



Written on Thursday, Aug. 26, 2010. 6:42 AM
under Big Brothers and Big Sisters Program, Shalhevet Early Learning Initiative

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Tears of Joy

Asking for help isn’t easy. It’s even harder when you know that the answer might be no.

“I have seen grown men sit in the same chair you are sitting in right now and weep,” says Sara Zekbach, the Yad Eliezer Adopt-a-Wedding program coordinator. The wall behind her desk is decorated with photographs of tulle and white flowers, sparkling long-stemmed glasses and elaborate bridal thrones.

A former girls high school teacher, Sara’s organizational skills and aesthetic sensibilities come to the fore beautifully in her combined role as financial counselor and wedding planner for the needy of Israel. Most important, however, is her kind face and understanding eyes. Sara knows how to make every groom and bride turning to her for help feel like a king and queen, no matter how little they have in financial terms.

“Sometimes people have this question about why we help people make weddings. Couldn’t the money be spent in better ways? But the truth is that such an expectation is unfair. Just because a family is struggling to make ends meet doesn’t mean that their daughter should have to wait until she is middle-aged to get married,” says Sori Tropper, CEO of American Friends of Yad Eliezer. The message is that the poor deserve the same normalcy and dignity that we do.

Sara also explains that the Adopt-a-Wedding program has ramifications beyond just the families of the brides and grooms. The program employs wait staff and catering services for up to four weddings every night, providing jobs for dozens of formerly impoverished Israelis.

“By the way,” adds Sara, “The reason that people weep in my office isn’t out of sadness. They sit there and weep for joy. There was a father here a few months ago who had no idea how he would manage to provide his daughter with even a modest wedding celebration. This was a family in genuinely dire straits. We invited him in a few days after his visit to tell him the good news. Someone had sponsored the entire cost of his daughter’s wedding.”

“That was when he started to cry,” concludes Sara with a quiet smile.



Written on Thursday, Aug. 19, 2010. 6:45 AM
under Adopt-a-Wedding , Kol Kallah Bridal Fund

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